It’s so disheartening to see the surge of criticism to Jo Koy’s hosting of the Golden Globes. Even more heartbreaking is how this is a clear example that many times, our world chooses to embrace meanness over kindness.
While we’re fueled by social media commentary and instantaneous reactions about everything we see, many have failed to see the opportunity they had to show empathy. Jo Koy brought his own unique charm to this hosting gig he accepted less than 2 weeks before the show. While opinions may vary on how he did, humility and understanding could’ve made this experience different for him and for everyone else.
The Essence of Constructive Criticism:
We all know that critiques and reviews are all part of public performances. Jo Koy knew that going into it. However, he prepared and collaborated with others in a limited timeframe. In this case, it’s crucial to reflect on the way we express our opinions of his hosting abilities. He has never done something like this before and how many of us can really say that we would’ve jumped at the opportunity if presented and taken this role? Jo Koy took the risk and then society has chosen to take him down rather than build him up from this experience.
Is that really what we want our children to learn from this?
We see quotes all the time encouraging people to go out of their comfort zone, to believe in themselves, go for it, don’t play it safe, be brave… and yet here’s a comedian who did just that and the world is choosing to be unkind about what he did.
As a mom, I want my girls to know the power of constructive words and how to handle it. I want to encourage them to take risks and say yes to things they may not be comfortable doing, but encourage them that it doesn’t hurt to try.
Instead of celebrating the bravery it took to push boundaries and entertain an elite audience, the negativity of Jo Koy’s performance has overshadowed the positive message that our society claims to champion. The lesson here should be one of support, encouragement, and appreciation for those who dare to break molds and showcase their talents in an unfamiliar setting.
Balancing Words in Interviews and Reviews:
Public figures, including comedians like Jo Koy, are humans with emotions. From reading comments on social media, all the keyboard warriors are out and have forgotten that. As parents, we should aspire to be examples for our kids and the younger generation, teaching them the importance of empathy and understanding. Choosing words wisely can make such a significant impact yet we have fallen short in doing that.
The power of constructive criticism is only in its ability to guide growth and improvement. It’s not meant to tear the spirit of the person down, yet dare I say that this is what we have done to Jo Koy?
Behind the laughter and applause, there exists a person who, like all of us, deserves respect and understanding.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Ephesians 4:29
Social Media Negativity:
Social media platforms have become breeding grounds for negativity and the comments you find are now spiraling into personal attacks. It’s crazy! Shouldn’t we be teaching our kids the values of kindness and compassion? Instead of perpetuating this cycle, how about we make an effort to uplift and encourage or don’t say anything at all?
It reminds me of the golden rule many of us learned as a child: Do to others as you would have them do to you (Luke 6:33).
If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.
A kind word can go a long way.
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Proverbs 12:18
Acknowledging Effort and Courage:
Jo Koy being asked to host the Golden Globes was a dream come true for him. While I’m sure he thought about the impact it could make for his career, he never could have predicted how it would end. It should still be a personal achievement that he can be proud of, except I’m not so sure he feels that way given how so many feel the need to tear him down. It took a lot of courage to step out into that prominent stage.
Jo Koy’s willingness to take on this challenge and share his comedic talent deserves recognition, even if the outcome wasn’t what everyone expected.
Hollywood Snobs and the Tough Crowd:
It’s also so important to recognize Jo Koy was faced with the unique challenge of having to try and make a huge group of “Hollywood snobs” laugh. As he and others have mentioned, it was a “tough crowd.”
It wouldn’t have hurt a lot of them to just laugh it off and focus on having a good time. Jo Koy’s jokes were mild and yet many of these celebrities felt the need to stay stone faced and emotionless instead. Taylor Swift and Ryan Gosling, both seasoned in navigating Hollywood’s expectations, could have embraced the moments with lighthearted responses. They’re used to being under scrutiny themselves, yet they chose to react in a way that added an extra layer of intensity to Jo Koy’s already demanding performance.
Had it been any other comedian who these celebrities knew well, the reactions from the jokes and its content, would have been taken differently.
It couldn’t have been an easy moment for him. In the industry where validation from others holds significant weight, Jo Koy faced the challenge of navigating it and persevered. He maintained his composure and continued delivering his performance.
Jo Koy’s resilience speaks volumes about what’s required in the world of entertainment. I hope he knows that he’s going to be a great example when we want to share stories of resilience and perseverance. His courage to face this head on is an example of determination.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10
Accusation of Misogyny
Many viewers and critics labeled some of Jo Koy’s jokes as misogynistic, perpetuating stereotypes and disrespects women. However, I felt that his humor was mild in comparison to others.
I’m sure his intent wasn’t malicious and we have to remind ourselves that comedy often operates in a gray area. Jo Koy’s entire body of work fosters kindness and love. He wants to connect people through laughter rather than negativity. As a comedian, his chosen career is a commitment to spreading joy and bridging gaps through humor.
Let’s not lose sight of the positive impact comedy can have in bringing people together, even when it ventures into the gray areas of expression.
If Taylor Swift can write songs like “The Man” and “Only the Young,” in wanting to express herself, Jo Koy can write jokes that navigate the complexities of our culture, family dynamics, and the diverse experiences we all face in the world today. Just as Swift uses her music to address societal issues and personal narratives, Jo Koy employs humor to shed light on the same thing.
So yes, before you ask, my daughters will know the difference between a joke and when someone is truly attacking women. As adults, we should know where the line is and while we can acknowledge that the drawn line can be different for everyone, we should still look at the context in every situation.
The Power of Positive Words
Have we forgotten about Robin Williams and tWitch? Despite their ability to bring joy and laughter to countless individuals, both these public figures found the world to be a challenging place. Robin Williams, celebrated for his wit and humor, struggled with personal battles that eventually led to his tragic passing. Similarly, tWitch, known for his dances as a TV personality on The Ellen Show, faced difficulties as well that led to his death.
These instances serve as sad reminders that even those who dedicate their lives to bringing happiness to others can be grappling with internal struggles. Let’s be mindful of the impact our words can have. We should be the examples our kids need, fostering a culture of encouragement, understanding, and above all, kindness.
I, for one, will be supporting celebrities like Whoopi Goldberg, Kevin Hart, Steve Martin, and some others who have chosen to do that.
If you want to support Jo Koy, be sure to check out some of his work:
Jo Koy: Lights Out
Jo Koy: Don’t Make Him Angry
Jo Koy: Don’t Make Him Angry DVD
Easter Sunday
Jo Koy Mixed Plate: Chronicles of an All-American Combo
The Koy Pond with Jo Koy
Jo Koy Tour Dates
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Your kids are lucky to have you as their mom.
You are right, the world is full of “haters”. I used to get so down when similar things happen to me. But I realized, not so quickly, that we cannot please everyone. So I pray for those who doesn’t support me and try to bring me down. I don’t even entertain the thought of trying to convince them ti think otherwise.
At the end of the day, we all have a “calling” that shows up in something that we do with so much passion with the ultimate goal to serve Him. So the energy coming from haters can be converted to positive energy to move us forward with greater intensity.
The only problem is that if someone being criticized is not aware of why they do thing or why they say things and perhaps have some mental health issues, then that’s when tragic things happen.
You are right, especially in our culture, people will tear you down. As if it is the easier route than to build someone up. The world is full of this people. Perhaps because it was done to them and internalized it and does not realize they are doing it to others.
Thank you for a very thoughtful analysis of the situation.
I personally find it energizing to know that there are people like you willing to stand up for someone who might be getting “bullied”. It’s refreshing to read something positive like your blog.
Make it a great day and keep haters at bay.
Hi Naira, thank you so much! I truly appreciate your perspective on dealing with negativity and your kind words and support mean so much to me. I’m glad you found positivity here as that’s what I strive to do here. I hope you continue visiting the blog when you can. Wishing you a fantastic day!
I am soo proud of your take on this. Your dad , my cousin ) is blessed to have a daughter who is smart , compassionate & most importantly a child of God.
I celebrate Jokoy every time I watch him. He brings out the best in people because we know him. Our culture as Filipino see the hard work he puts in & is proud of him. He’s funny & means well & smart. Hollywood elites are all about glitter & making money. They are not examples to look up to for our children. And yes they are absolute snobs. They live in a different world.
You have to laugh @ Jokoys joke. Life is too short. Taylor Swift should have just raised her glass & laughed. Not sure why she’s mad faced Is it because the joke implied that she’s not going to be a winner & therefore no cameras going crazy for her and just pissed because there’s no glory around that joke.? Her facial expression says it all. I admire her musical accomplishments & the life she lives & celebrate her but I think she failed in her emotional intelligence. She should have applauded him & laughed.
Thank you for your gift of knowledge & wisdom. And thank you to your dad.
Hi Julie, thank you so much for your kind words. I absolutely agree with all that you said. I have also been a fan of Taylor Swift, but this particular event was such a turn off to me. It’s like she showed her true colors (and so did many other celebrities). I appreciate your taking the time to encourage me by leaving your comment. I hope you have a blessed 2024!